I AM often asked if I AM a business coach for women entrepreneurs, then why do I focus so much of my time, energy & effort teaching women that before they can build a successful business, they must truly love themselves FIRST so that they can develop healthy self-esteem? What does that have to do with business? (I’ll get to that in a minute..)

Well I just saw a film that blew my wig back (and ya’ll know I’m bald). In this film several intelligent, well established women living in “First World” countries (so called developed, capitalist, industrial, forward thinking countries) are undergoing ELECTIVE surgery to “improve the appearance of the sex organs” & create perfect genitalia amid a “shocking” lack of information on the potential risks of the procedure…WT(You-know-what) is wrong with us?

The Dalia Lama said that “the World Will Be Saved By the Western Woman” …but my question is who is gonna save the Western woman? Especially since so many of us have so much self loathing that we would CHOOSE to undergo the elective mutilation of the Sacred portal for ALL life; all the while wagging our finger and “tisk-tisking” the forced practice of female genital mutilation in other cultures & religions. 

If in fact WE are going to be the women who will save the world then it is high time, that from the female CEO in the boardroom to the work from home Mompreneur, we MUST begin to take a hard & honest look at the part of our psyche (both individual & collective) that lends itself to this type of secret self hatred.

Of course, being a successful entrepreneur requires continual work on the outer game (systems, structures, marketing, client acquisition, sales conversion, etc.), but none of that will ever amount to any sustainable, long-term success if women continue to ignore the work that must be done on the INNER game (personal & spiritual development, mental conditioning, healthy living, empowering associations, accountability through coaching, etc). Learn to LOVE every single part of yourself!!

I AM including the link to the film for those who choose to watch.

I’d LOVE for you to share your comments on the film as well as my blog post down below (no pun intended)

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Frantonia Pollins Headshot w/ Purple backgroundFrantonia Pollins, affectionately known as The First Lady of Empowerment, is the founder & CEO of The First Lady Lifestyle & Leadership Academy, an exclusive membership movement which offers the ultimate in Transformational Leadership and Lifestyle coaching services designed to empower 1,000,000 Women Worldwide to conquer their fears about Money & Wealth; inspire them to discover their own uniquely Divine & powerful purpose on the planet and guide them as they create successful businesses that will transform the world and leave a Multi-generational Legacy of Wealth.


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    4 replies to "What does my Vajayjay have to do with building my business?"

    • Elise Robine

      This reminds me of the truism that you can move or vacation wherever you want in the world but you are still going to have to live with you. The same follows for what’s done to our bodies, we don’t heal the wounds underneath no matter how many surgical procedures. It can be a tough one to shift those patters to loving our bodies but damn rewarding. Thank you for this spotlight, Frantonia.

    • Caitriona Reed

      Yes, sad .. and, as someone who chose to have my body surgically altered (as a woman of transgendered experience) I also choose to reserve judgement. I have known women (and men) who have had their bodies altered and been empowered by doing so AND I have known others for whom it was certainly not empowering .. more like self-inflicted mutilation. But who’s going to define that line, between a casual tattoo, say, and self-inflicted mutilation based on shame and a desire to compensate or please.

    • Hear, hear Frantonia!! I consider breast augmentation in the same category. In some ways we women do have a looooong way to go. In fairness, many have already walked the road of building self love, esteem and worth, but there is still lots of work to do. As always, permanent change begins with the children and that depends on the adults who raise and teach them.

      Good job Frantonia, another cog in the wheel exposed.

    • Katie Bauer

      Wow! Wow! Wow! That is so sad. I haven’t had a chance to watch the video yet, but what you have explained of it leaves me in such a place of sadness that women would choose to change the appearance of their sex organs as though any sex organ isn’t exactly perfect just as it is. As though any of us aren’t exactly perfect just as we are. I am so glad that you bring awareness to the importance of us believing on ourselves first as the key starting point to building a successful business. So, so important to work on our inner game!

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